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I’ve Never Done Rope Before.
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Shibari can seem daunting at first, as most of the online images are often very advanced. Shibari is a tool for physical communication, and the positions and patterns are a unique outcome of the two people involved. There are no barriers to entry, and every session is designed specifically for you. I work predominantly with people who have little to no experience and enjoy the new energy they bring. Each encounter is a dialogue that never presupposes a person's capacity or physical ability. My passion is the exchange of physical emotions in a judgment-free environment. Although, it is essential to mention that understanding your body and your needs is at the heart of a rewarding session.
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Shibari is a body-centric practice which uses aspects of Somatic Bodywork and BDSM to access and release the non-verbal tensions and stresses held in the body. At the start of a session, it is common to feel some discomfort as our bodies are not used to being restricted. Challenging feelings such as a deep stretch or the compression of the rope, which initially seemed uncomfortable, gradually shift as the mind calms and the nervous system regains self-regulation. Your instincts, emotions, and intellect begin to work together, and the body finds new methods to deal with its environment.
The physical modalities used to navigate the emotions presented in a rope session are frequently more primitive and simplistic than our default conscious thoughts. Still, they are also far more capable and responsive. Sessions provide a safe space to use these primitive tools and challenge their physical and emotional preconceptions of themselves.
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Absolutely not. Modern Shibari has come a long way from its Japanese routes, becoming a contemporary practice accessible to all. The practice will always be intimate, and the thresholds of eroticism vary from person to person. I believe that arousal, lust and desire are a natural part of the emotional spectrum, not something contained and separate.
It is hard to understand how you will feel during a session; it would not be as exciting if you did. Ultimately, the parameters of a session are determined by your boundaries and intentions. My role is to "hold space" by respecting those boundaries and engaging in the actions that you are seeking. If you are unsure of your limitations, there is always space for a conversation.
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Shibari can be dangerous if not practised with respect and honest communication. We have a shared responsibility to discuss our needs and boundaries, both in the negotiation before and during the session itself.
However, the intensity of the physical and emotional sensations brought on during a Shibari session can often restrict the person's speaking capacity. I will work with you to find ways to create a fulfilling session that includes safe words and gestures, and every measure will be taken to create a safe and judgment-free environment.
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Before the Session
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You can wear whatever resonates with you and feels good. I recommend determining your choice of clothes by the desires of the session. For practical reasons, it is preferable to avoid anything too strappy, fussy or loose. Underwired bras can sometimes dig into the ribs, so try to avoid them when possible. If you are unsure, yoga clothes are a good default option. Feel free to bring a few options and decide on the day.
Sometimes undressing can be part of the session, so if starting in a dress and ending up in nothing is for you, please let me know. I enjoy roleplay and find it easy to get into the various headspaces. I have often based an entire session around a person's role and outfit.
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Just the most honest iteration of yourself. A bottle of water is also useful. The cloud you are floating on at the end of a session might not get you all the way home, so snacks and sugary treats are great as blood sugar can sometimes drop.
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I am available for outcalls and do enjoy a nice hotel. Some spaces are not suitable for the practice, so please get in touch, and we can decide together what is best.
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During a session
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I often photograph sessions (when Pre-negotiated) , but it is never the session's focus. I have developed a method for taking photos so that it never interrupts the flow of a session. Let me know in advance if that is something you want. I'm always happy to adapt a session to the person's requirements.
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I prefer to tie one on one, but I may make allowances in certain situations.
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I am always happy to re-tie and take another approach as I don't want to put someone in a position outside their comfort zone. I don't have any physical expectations of people and consider every session a collaborative venture. The physical act of tying is my passion, so it is never a hindrance to untie and try another position.
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I have been practising BDSM for almost 10 years and have experience in many areas, many of which I am open to exploring in sessions. I have access to numerous private dungeon for other activities. Tell me about your interests in your complimentary consultation, and we can go from there.
SAFETY
If you'd like to know more about Shibari's risks and safety considerations, See the resources below.
Shibari is as dangerous as you make it and is not without risk. However, A thoughtful approach and good communication can virtually eliminate the significant dangers and mitigate the smaller ones. We have a shared responsibility to communicate our boundaries during a session and in the pre-session discussion. Transparent and direct dialogue is crucial for a good session and always results in a more enjoyable experience. Hanging from a single ankle might not be suitable for a beginner, but I'll certainly be able to recommend something just as exciting.
Sessions allow us to explore the unchartered emotional and physical territory and can involve complex mental states and challenging positions. My role as facilitator is to guide the person being tied through the journey safely and sustainably.
My focus is entirely on your experience and well-being from beginning to end, and I usually spot most signs of discomfort. Most concerns are addressed in the pre-session discussion, but communication is required during a session. Pre-agreed safewords and non-verbal gestures are used if something unexpected or unpleasant arises.
